Vintage Relationships: Resist the urge to "fall back"

 

 

A month ago, I walked out of a bar, stood in a sketchy alley, and talked to my brand new ex bf longingly and with a heavy heart. The next night, I better acquainted myself with a super awesome guy , and unknowingly hopped on a non-stop "moving on" flight. There were LOTS of in-flight beverages involved, of course, but I made it to my terminal with all of my luggage.

I can honestly say that this has been my easiest break-up to date, and a kick-ass month of growth. My friends are amazing, the super awesome guy is still super and awesome, and my days and nights are full of happiness and free of worry. I'm learning constantly. That is what dating is all about. It's like getting samples at Costco. If you like it enough, you'll go buy it. If not, at least you got a taste of something you know you don't like. It's up to you to wash that bad taste out of your mouth and try again, ladies.

I'm in this odd transition between adolescent and adult dating. I want to date men now, REAL men who wear watches and floss their teeth often. I didn't know this a year ago. I also didn't know how great of a catch I was because I spent my single months grieving my past relationships when I should have been loving myself. See, I've always been a dweller rather than a reminiscer, and it was bringing me down.

In conclusion, getting dumped sucks, but accepting defeat is the ultimate self-betrayal. Don't do it. Pick up the pieces and repurpose them a la Pinterest.


It's the perfect time of year to turn over a new leaf, they happen to be everywhere.

CT

 

CT and unnamed ex, circa 2009. Blast from the past.